Addressing Anti-Puppy Socialization Ideas

There are many anti-socialization posts these days. Please ignore anti-puppy socialization messages. Read below to learn why.

Some of the main anti-socialization points are in the blue headings below, with my comments addressing them after that.

Anti-Socialization Claim 1 – Socializing your puppy around other dogs and/or people is the worst way to get her calm around them.

It depends on the dog. If we’re talking about the average puppy, most are curious and would love to go up to new people and dogs and greet them. If the puppy is allowed this experience and treated kindly, she will continue to like others, since it has always been a positive experience for her.

The goal of socialization is not to simply get a calm puppy around others. The goal is to make sure the puppy likes others, because if she is confident around them, she will not have fear/aggression towards them or other new individuals she may meet later in life, although often times the more individuals puppies meet, the less likely they will feel they need to meet everyone (it depends on the dog), but their need for socializing has been met, meaning they likely will be calmer.

We can also worry about teaching calm behaviors later. We only have a short socialization period, where puppies are more open to new experiences. Our goal is to create positive associations with other dogs, people, sights, sounds, and other experiences a puppy will deal with in her life. We can teach foundation/obedience behaviors at any age to get calm interactions.

Anti-Socialization Claim 2 – Some trainers claim socialization is a complete cure for dogs who are reactive to dogs and people.

Two things about this:

1. Regular socialization efforts are for dogs without severe behavior issues. This is exactly why good trainers push puppy socialization, because puppies are new to life and malleable – we can easily take advantage of their natural hardwired socialization period to get them to enjoy the company of others – ultimately preventing worse behavior problems like reactivity, fear, and aggression from popping up later in life.

2. We actually can cure reactivity sometimes by allowing dogs to interact with others. There are different causes of reactive behavior (barking, pulling, lunging on leash towards other dogs), but one type results from dogs who are blocked from meeting/playing/socializing with other dogs and become frustrated. This is called barrier frustration and occurs when the leash or owner keeps their dog away from others, preventing access to what the dog wants and leading to frustration buildup.

Not all dogs with reactive behavior should be allowed up to other dogs, since they may also bite. Work with a professional dog trainer to help make sure you have a dog that you can introduce quickly to others to solve barrier frustration (we recommend our colleagues: CTC trainers from Jean Donaldson’s The Academy for Dog Trainers) as they are qualified to help with these issues.

Anti-Socialization Claim 3 – People just want a calm, friendly dog they can trust with guests and have enjoyable walks, and socialization does not lead to this.

If you properly socialize puppies, you end up with a calm/friendly/trustworthy puppy, and then you can train calm walking behavior (walking without pulling) with training treats.

Anti-Socialization Claim 4 – If socializing was the answer to aggression around dogs and people then socialized dogs would not be aggressive.

Again, socialization is done to prevent serious behavior problems like aggression. If your dog already has legitimate aggressive behavior, just letting them go up to other dogs or people and calling it socialization will not fix this behavior. But this has nothing to do with how we socialize dogs normally.

Aggressive behavior has many causes as well. We socialize puppies to ideally prevent any future aggression, but there is no guarantee on behavior. For example, there are medical causes of aggression like brain tumors. But if you sequester your puppy and keep her isolated, she definitely won’t gain social skills or enjoy the presence of other dogs more.

Anti-Socialization Claim 5 – Dragging a dog around more people and more dogs is not going to help. More socializing and having family members feed her treats, won’t help.

Proper socialization does not include dragging dogs around others. You absolutely should not force a dog to do any behavior. Acting roughly around them will create negative associations, leading to fear and aggression.

Allowing your dog to eat treats from family members is great as long as the dog is not too fearful to take them. Sometimes a nervous dog will approach to take a treat, then realize she’s too close to the person who scares her, and may then panic or bite. But all socialization and training efforts should keep puppies and dogs safe and comfortable. At no point is forcing them into situations going to lead to good results; luckily, that is not what actual socialization is.


1. Socialize your puppies and newly acquired older dogs – allow them to greet and play with other friendly, social dogs. Allow them to meet kind people. Allow them to accept treats from family members. Socialize them to create positive associations with things they will encounter in life: different types of surfaces to walk on, veterinary and animal care procedures: examinations, baths, nail trimming, etc.

2. If your dog already has behavior issues like reactivity, fear, and aggression, you will have to work on training (not socialization).

3. Get professional dog training help as needed.

By Dan Raymer, CTC

Notes for Pierce’s Article About Ultrasonic Devices

This is a very good article by Jessica Pierce:

Are Ultrasonic Dog Training Devices Really Safe and Humane?

One point of correction at the end of it: their following statement is incorrect.

“Food treats are good to start with but as training progresses your dog should recognise verbal praise and a pat as a treat.”

There is no inherent reason to stop reinforcing behaviors with things dogs prefer (food) and deliver something they may like but not as much (verbal praise and a pat). Each dog has preferences and may prefer different types of rewards at different times, but in general food-treats tend to be higher value to dogs than things such as praise.

Once a dog is further along in training, behaviors can be rewarded some of the time (intermittent reinforcement), which keeps the behaviors strong over time, and different types of rewards can be used including treats, toys, the chance to meet or play with other dogs, the chance to go on a walk or run off leash, or praise, gentle petting, etc.

But there is no reason to completely stop rewarding with food/treats.

Aversive training methods like ultrasonic devices and techniques designed to notice behavior problems and punish them, do harm dogs and can lead to additional problems. Dogs who are constantly, and often times randomly punished end up more uncomfortable. It’s common for dogs who are punished for barking to bark more, even though that’s not the person’s intended outcome.

Using positive reinforcement methods allows dogs to understand how the training process works (they perform behaviors for rewards), and then they can relax, leading to problems like upset-frustration barking simply vanishing or drastically decreasing.

It’s also important to address the underlying reason for barking. For example, if a dog has separation anxiety – an extreme phobia of being left alone – punishment only makes this worse. It just proves to the dog that being left alone is scary. Not only was there original extreme fear, but with electronic devices causing discomfort or pain, it just adds to dog’s mental suffering and anxiety. Instead we want to help these dogs desensitize to being left alone, to make them more comfortable and free from fear.

By Dan Raymer

Raymer Family Dog Training News: Summer 2021

Happy Summer!

Online Classes

The new online dog training classes website is still in development. You can get updates on the following new social media pages for Dog Training +





If you need new training treats, we are grateful to Fig & Tyler for providing us with a discount code to offer you:

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To receive 10% off your first order at:

It’s a great idea to mix treats to keep dogs motivated rather than always delivering the same reward. You can use your dog’s kibble, store-bought packaged treats, Fig & Tyler freeze dried treats (which are high value to dogs and easy to break into smaller pieces as needed), and fresh meats (without additives like salt/spices).

By Dan Raymer

Summer Reading List

Summer is here! If you’re looking for some summer reading, the following is a list of dog behavior and training books we recommend.

The Culture Clash: A revolutionary new way of understanding the relationship between humans and domestic dogs by Jean Donaldson

This concise book is packed with behavior knowledge. For anyone who has wanted to understand why dogs behave in the manner they do, this book explains it along with relevant dog training concepts.

Don’t Shoot the Dog! The New Art of Teaching and Training by Karen Pryor

This book covers learning and training, focusing on operant conditioning – animal learning via consequences. One excellent factor in the book is the inclusion of many examples of training for different animal species.

Life Skills for Puppies: Laying the foundation for a loving, lasting relationship by Helen Zulch & Daniel Mills

This one covers puppy socialization and training, broken into nice sections of skills. If there is one thing to add to it, it would be the inclusion of pairing experiences with treats to make sure positive associations are formed.

Doggie Language: A Dog Lover’s Guide To Understanding Your Best Friend by Lili Chin

We have covered this book in the past. Check it out here! Learning to read communication signals dogs deliver is of utmost importance for many reasons, including making sure they are comfortable, free from fear and pain, and for dog bite prevention. This is a nice, succinct book of illustrations to help with reading dog behavior and body language.

By Dan Raymer